Are You pretending your toxic family members are okay?

Pretending their toxic behavior is okay is not okay. – If you’re not careful, toxic family members can use their moody behavior to get preferential treatment, because, well, it just seems easier to quiet them down than to listen to their rhetoric. Don’t be fooled. Short-term ease equals long-term pain for you in a situation like this.

What should you do when your family is being bullied?

You just stay calm and keep doing what you were doing. According to Harper, one of the most common forms of family bullying is shunning — better known as the silent treatment or the cold shoulder. “Shunning is cruel, unnecessary and pointless,” she says. Don’t mistake it as a break from the abuse — and don’t let the bully get away with it.

What should you do when a bully pretends to ignore you?

Instead, keep speaking to the bully at family functions, including him or her as best you can and ignoring the fact that they’re pretending to ignore you. Attempt to talk to them and resolve the conflict, but if they refuse to respond– or try to shift accountability to you or someone else — move on and don’t engage.

What happens when a family member shuns you?

First things first: Shunning and bullying are abuse. “Any family member who encourages others to shun you is not only abusing you, but damaging your relationships with other family members,” says Harper. The longer the shunning or bullying persists, the harder it is to break the cycle.

What are the signs of a toxic family member?

Second, you must understand that a toxic family member may be going through a difficult stage in their lives. They may be ill, chronically worried, or lacking what they need in terms of love and emotional support.

How do you deal with toxic people around you?

Be cognizant of how the people closest to you treat you, and look out for the subtle jabs they throw. When necessary, confront them – do whatever it takes to give yourself the opportunity to grow into who you really are. Pretending their toxic behavior is okay is not okay.

What happens to a child when their parents fight?

Studies show that when they blame themselves over their parents’ fights, they develop anti-social behavior. While children who feel threatened by the constant conflict develop emotional problems like depression. Abuse is violence. Violence doesn’t just stop at physical abuse.