Why do we hurt those we care about?

Why hurting others helps us feel safe When we hurt someone for no reason, it’s because we fear rejection or disconnection from that person. We hope that, by lashing out, they’ll show us more love, attention or understanding. So, we behave badly because we want to feel ‘safe’.

Why do I care too much for others?

We care so much about others because our happiness depends on the quality of our relationships. We want to be in their good books so that we can develop and nurture our relationships with them. Our worrying about what others think of us stems from the fear that we may be bereft of friends or intimacy.

What happens when you take care of other people?

When you care for other people, the experience becomes internal as well as external. If we aim to have self-awareness, what we love (or don’t love) about another will open our eyes to what we love (or don’t love) about ourselves as well. If we shut ourselves off to the world, we only allow stimuli into our lives that we choose.

What happens if the other person doesn’t intend to hurt you?

The other person may not intend to hurt you at all; they may have no clue about their impact on you. In the example above, the “offender” may have a different sense of time, be distracted, or feel anxious about texting for a reason you know nothing about.

Why do people shut down when they don’t care?

They may shut down as a way to protect themselves; they may feel unable to respond, because of who they are and how they function, not because they don’t care. But you feel exasperated and emotionally abandoned. We cannot underestimate how little we know about others (and ourselves).

Is caring a strength or a weakness?

We are all human, and we all have wants, needs, and emotions. Ignoring our very most inner core is, I would argue: A weakness. Here are seven reasons why caring is actually a strength. You can build a support system. It has almost become a badge of honor to say you don’t “need” someone.