Can narcissists grieve?

And, in my experience, it’s grief-causing to understand that the narcissist in your life will always fit the bill for grief-like feelings around the relationship that you wish would be different, better, or more. Even then, the grief-like feelings don’t go away on their own by cutting the person out of your life.

How do narcissists deal with loss?

Narcissists hate losing their supply of attention, so they won’t let you go easily. Prepare for them to promise “to change.” They might suddenly start doing things for you that you’d been complaining about. They may say “you’ll be lost without me,” or “you’ll never find someone like me.”

Should I attend my narcissistic mother’s funeral?

There is no point whatsoever is attending my narcissist mother’s funeral. As they say, funerals are for the living. My father would be distressed and angry and vengeful if I were to show up. So, obviously, I wouldn’t be doing a kindness for him by going. My sister will have her own self-serving agenda, whatever it may be.

Can a narcissist be changed on their deathbed?

There are two issues here that I will try to express my thoughts on. That of the dying N parent, and the issue of their funeral. These are my personal decisions based on my circumstances. Adjust as necessary if your circumstances call for it. The chance of a narcissist being changed on their deathbed is the stuff of fantasy.

Do you want to allow contact with a narcissist?

Do not be enticed by your imagination and your hope to allow contact in these circumstances. If you on any level feel you need something from the narcissist then you are perfectly set up for another jab into the center of your heart. You will be handing power over to the narcissist to get you one more time.

Are you gullible when it comes to a narcissist?

Don’t be gullible. They are unchanged; they are not sorry. If you consent to some contact while being fully aware that you expect nothing from the narcissist then you are better situated to avoid being vulnerable. If you give anything at this juncture, do it for them not for yourself.