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What mistakes did your parents make?
“This makes kids feel torn between what they would like to do and what their parents want them to do. When you want to give your child advice about making life choices, just check with yourself to make sure you are setting your own goals aside and being present for him or her instead.”
Why do we make the same mistakes as our parents?
Projecting. Much of the reason we overcompensate for our parents’ mistakes is that we project ourselves or how we felt as kids onto our children. When we see our kids as extensions of ourselves, we then put pressure on them to either be like us or excel in ways we weren’t able to.
How do you deal with parenting mistakes?
Try these 7 ways to recover from your parenting mistakes:
- Recognize it. The first way is an obvious one.
- Determine why. Once we recognize our mistakes, we have to search ourselves and find out why we did what we did.
- Apologize for it.
- Discuss it.
- Learn from it.
- Take action.
- Move on.
Do people always become their parents?
As scientists have learned from “nature versus nurture” studies on twins and adoptees, humans become more like our biological parents and other family members as we get older.
What happens when you make mistakes in life?
“If you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You are doing things you have never done before, and more importantly, you are doing something.”
Do you live in the past or focus on the future?
“Don’t live in the past, thinking about mistakes or changes you made. Think of your life as a book, move forward, close one chapter and open another. Learn from your mistakes, but focus on your future, no on your past.”
Should you mention a person’s past mistakes when trying to change?
“Don’t mention a person’s past mistakes when they are trying to change. That’s like throwing rocks at them while they are struggling to climb a mountain.”
Should you blame others for your mistakes?
But blaming other people or minimizing your responsibility isn’t helpful to anyone. Before you can learn from your mistakes, you have to accept full responsibility for your role in the outcome. That can be uncomfortable sometimes, but until you can say, “I messed up,” you aren’t ready to change.