Do INFJs understand themselves?

When it comes to the emotions of other people the INFJ can sense them and understand them often better than they understand themselves. INFJs do sometimes prefer to throw themselves into the needs and feelings of others, since their own emotions can feel overwhelming.

How would you describe yourself as an INFJ?

They are creative, passionate and empathetic. But secretive, mysterious and extremely hard to understand. They have difficulty leaving an unhealthy relationship. INFJ’s are selective about their friends.

Do INFJ want to be understood?

If you want your INFJ to feel loved and appreciated, show us that you care by attempting to understand us. Understanding is deeper than knowledge to an INFJ, and we will love you more for trying. For an INFJ, there is nothing more uplifting and freeing than feeling understood—especially from someone we care about.

Why are INFJs not understood?

INFJs often feel misunderstood. Perhaps it’s because they’re quiet and reserved and tend to share their deepest thoughts and feelings only with select people. Or maybe it’s because they are so rare—personality test research shows they make up less than 1\% of the population.

Do you feel misunderstood as an INFJ?

So many INFJ women tell me they feel misunderstood. They want, just once, for someone to get them. As humans, I believe we’re all wired for connection with other humans. There are a whole lot of people walking around feeling misunderstood, not just us INFJs.

Why do INFJs like to shut people out?

We would rather let you fail, face the consequences, and learn on your own. INFJs withdraw to protect themselves. INFJs don’t like to shut people out completely, but we do so to protect ourselves from getting hurt, for example, from people who betray our trust and kindness. Also, we don’t shut people out after they make one mistake.

Are INFJ’s good at small talks?

INFJs are not made for small talks. INFJs are actually very in tune socially, even though growing up we might think otherwise. We know that small talks are absolutely necessary especially when we met someone new. Just that to an INFJ, these small talks are so boring and superficial that they feel draining.

What does it feel like when you feel misunderstood?

When someone dismisses us without attempting to dig deeper, it feels like a rejection of who we are and serves as confirmation that we’re different. So of course it hurts deeply when you feel misunderstood! It feels like one of your core desires is not being met.