Are relationships supposed to be hard work?

The work that goes into a healthy relationship isn’t necessarily difficult or exhausting. That’s how a relationship should feel! This isn’t to say that relationships should never have conflict; sometimes they do, because partners are different people with different needs.

Do all relationships require work?

All relationships require effort and energy. You’ll need to talk through problems, compromise, and encourage each other to grow. These are all signs you’re trying too hard to make a relationship work, Jim Seibold, PhD, LMFT, a couples therapist, tells Bustle.

What do successful relationships require?

A ‘good relationship’ means different things to different people. However, good adult relationships generally involve two people who respect and can communicate with each other, and have equal rights, opportunities and responsibilities.

Are relationships ever easy?

Your relationship doesn’t have to be perfect and easy to be happy and healthy. The only things needed to have a successful relationship are love, regular communication, respect, patience, and a commitment to stick it out through thick-and-thin. It also requires compromise or “coming together” moments.

What are 4 signs of a healthy relationship?

9 Signs You’re in a Healthy Relationship

• You’re Not Afraid to Speak Up.
• Trust Is at the Core of the Relationship.
• You Know Each Other’s Love Language.
• You Agree to Disagree on Certain Issues.
• You Encourage Each Other to Go After Your Goals.
• You and Your Partner Hold Separate Interests.
• You’re Comfortable in Your Own Skin.

How do you maintain a good relationship?

Good relationships take hard work. Sustaining a relationship over years is not for the faint of heart. You can’t be lazy about it or dial it in. That doesn’t mean that it can’t be joyful, life affirming, sexually satisfying, and fun – but the tradeoff is that it takes work. Doing well at your career takes work.

Are relationships supposed to be this hard?

Relationships, we think, should not have to be this hard. Well, that’s true: They shouldn’t be relentlessly difficult, at least not on a permanent basis, otherwise who, other than a masochist, would consciously choose to live in such a state of perpetual struggle?

How do you make a relationship work?

Part of what makes a relationship work is a willingness to compromise and make sacrifices. While that all sounds reasonable in theory, in practice it can be really hard and can create friction. The key is to learn where your hard lines are and where you can bend to accommodate your partner — just so long as those compromises are reasonable.

Do you need to develop skills for relationships?

Because we may not think of relationships as something that you need to develop skills for, it’s easy to forget that this process is no different than the development of other competencies. We tend to think that if the feeling is there, then the relationship should just “naturally” thrive.