How do I tell my husband how I feel about him?

Explain to your husband how you feel in ways that highlight your distress rather than your anger. Tell your husband that you’re feeling hurt, disappointed, and upset and that you want to talk about how your feeling (see talk about problems ).

Are all masseuses Jennifer Love Hewitts?

Pop culture had convinced us that all masseuses are Jennifer Love Hewitts whose only worry is which male model to jack off before marrying. But then we talked to “Amy,” who worked in a parlor in Montreal, and she told us the sticky truth

Should I get tested for HIV after a massage?

Your fears are unwarranted. Your HIV-acquisition risk from your rub-and-tug happy-ending massage is nonexistent. HIV testing is not warranted. Donation information for The Robert James Frascino AIDS Foundation can be found on the foundation’s Web site at www.concertedeffort.org.

They need to be stated clearly. Your spouse needs to know and understand (those are two separate cognitive functions by the way) how his actions make you feel. He needs to understand the impact it is having on your trust and openness with him. It may not solve the problem, but it is necessary to be honest.

Do you overreact when you find your husband with pants down?

Do not overreact. You might have caught your husband with pants down (no pun intended!) watching an adult movie or you might have learned of his “hobby” by accidentally (or intentionally) looking at his browser’s history. But no matter how disturbing or awkward this discovery can be, the worst thing you can do is overreacting.

Do men read or watch TV to self soothe?

Some read. Others watch TV—not necessarily because they’re truly interested in the programs, but because it’s a mindless yet pleasant way to unwind. Many men also self-soothe by reading or watching TV. But many do it by masturbating while viewing porn.