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How do you deal with misunderstanding parents?
Keep calm, discuss your concerns, and be respectful when your parents do the same. Using “I” statements can take you a long way here. Saying things like “You never let me decide anything. My friend’s’ parents let them decide all the time,” is not constructive.
Why do misunderstandings happen?
Misunderstandings happen because there’s a big drop off between the sender and the receiver. When you send a message, it goes through a lot of processes and its original meaning gets lost. Then comes the decoding, when a person interprets what you wrote and distorts the original message further.
How do you deal with misunderstanding?
If a misunderstanding does happen (and they often do), here are 5 steps to handle it.
- Ask for permission to discuss the situation.
- Ask questions and really listen to the answers.
- Find the source of the misunderstanding and correct it.
- Check that understanding has been reached and the emotions dealt with.
What should I do if my parents are misunderstanding me?
If you feel your parents are misunderstanding you, consider that you might be misunderstanding them, too. Ask questions about your parents’ reasoning for certain things as way to then better explain your own position to ultimately reach an understanding. Keep in mind that being misunderstood and disagreeing are different.
What should you do when your mother says bad things about you?
As therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells Bustle, “A mother’s role is to provide unconditional love, safety, and support,” so it’ll feel really bad when she uses harsh words or brings up a sore subject. The best thing you can do, in these moments, is to take good care of yourself.
What do you do when you have a toxic mother?
It’s tough having a toxic mom, but remember there are things you can do to cope. As Patel says, “You are not your mom. You can take control and detach yourself. Seek support and therapy if needed. Do not react, take this personally, and do not feel responsible for your mom’s feelings.
Should you seek advice from your parents?
On top of that, seeking advice gives you an opportunity to talk and build rapport with your parents. You do not have to follow every piece of advice given, but listen carefully and be respectful. This will show your parents that you are thinking through your decisions well, and that you are still willing to let them have input.