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It’s okay to be less-social than other people People naturally vary in how social they are. Some have dozens of friends who they’re constantly hanging out with or texting. Others have a lower drive to socialize, which can show in a variety of ways: They like to spend a lot of time alone.
Actual antisocial personality disorder might be a result of traumatic childhood experiences. However, feeling antisocial as in not enjoying socializing can be a result of depression or social anxiety, bad past social experiences, too little social exposure, or a fearful-avoidant attachment style.
Do you just don’t like socializing?
Some people just plain don’t like socializing, and that’s totally fine. But on those occasions when you’re forced out (or you force yourself out), knowing the reasons why you don’t want to socialize, and tackling them ahead of time, can help make the experience much more enjoyable. Title photo by Barret Anspach.
What is socializing and why is it important?
Socializing is part of good mental health and a feeling of well-being. If you are feeling in the doldrums and don’t know why, maybe you haven’t been paying enough time to your social life. We all need validation and that comes from others as well as our internal sense of self-worth.
A reasonable amount of socializing that gives you a feeling of well-being is all that’s needed, not necessarily attending lots of parties and social events. Furthermore, when you socialize even minimally, you find it feels good because people show they like you and are interested in your thoughts and ideas.
Some of us are just naturally introverted and dread social situations, others may enjoy being social, but just don’t feel like it sometimes. Unfortunately, there are times, both in our personal and professional lives when we have to do it whether we like it or not.