Is it okay to talk about weight?

Do not frame the discussion around weight and food. Keep the discussion focused on health. Phrases that focus on the person’s body or eating habits can make your loved one feel defensive.

How do you approach a family member about your weight?

The Don’ts

1. Do not use shame.
2. Do not force the issue.
3. Do not frame the discussion around weight and food.
4. Do not offer “helpful” weight loss hints.
5. Do not monitor their food or exercise.
6. Do not judge.
7. Do remember that your loved one may already feel ashamed.
8. Do speak about health and feelings.

Is it rude to say someone lost weight?

1. “How much weight did you lose?” Asking someone his or her weight is rude and invasive and it downgrades the immense effort it took to create the weight loss to a simple number. Think of it this way: how much someone has lost is as private as their current weight, age or salary.

How do you tell your daughter she needs to lose weight?

So, instead of saying, “I have to get to the gym to lose five pounds before Aunt Julia’s wedding” try saying, “Going to the gym always makes me feel good, and it’s important to keep me healthy.” Instead of saying, “I’m not having ice cream tonight, because it’s almost swim suit season,” try saying, “I love ice cream.

How do I get my mom to stop talking to me?

The key to drawing a verbal boundary is to enforce it: if your mom (or whoever) doesn’t drop it, leave the room. Walk away, go somewhere else, hang up the phone—whatever is the clearest way to make the conversation be over when you say.

How do I tell my mom to stop commenting on my body?

Now is the time for you to tell them that. Make a script, and practice it in front of a mirror or with a friend until you can say it by heart. Here’s one possibility: Mom, when you comment on my body, I feel awful. I am not going to listen to you trash me. Drop it, or this conversation is over.

How can I help a loved one lose weight?

She also didn’t ask how much weight I’d lost so far. Instead she was a friend and always that one person who believed in me, and I knew it. If you are hoping to help a loved one lose weight, please try to simply be their “encouraging friend” … that one person who continues to let them know by telling them that you believe in them, always.

What to do when your mother is Gaslighting you?

Your mother is gaslightingyou about your body (texting your father that you gained OVER HALF YOUR BODY WEIGHT is not, let’s say, reality), and a good therapist can help you deal with these lies and figure out what you feel without your mother clouding it over. Here are some ways to find therapy and other mental health resources.