What causes an INFJ to Doorslam?

INFJs slam the door when they have been deeply wounded. They slam the door when they can no longer tolerate a person’s toxicity. They do it to protect themselves from further hurt. If the door has been slammed on you, it’s because the INFJ saw no other way of stopping the emotional pain you were causing them.

Do INFJs like shy people?

INFJs can definitely be bothered by feeling shy, since they want to be able to connect with people. If they are overly shy and feel this hold them back, it can certainly be something which bothers the INFJ. ENFJs are social and often interacting people, and so if they feel shy it can be something which holds them back.

Do INFJs door slam people?

It takes much less for the INFJ to Door Slam an individual who harms their loved ones. The INFJ finds this entirely necessary and justifiable, since it is for someone that they care about. They will shut this person out with ease, often done with a very clear and rational mind.

How do INFJs re-open the door?

In order for the door to be re-opened, the INFJ must feel that the other person will no longer hurt them. They must believe the other person is sorry for the pain they caused — and they understand why their actions were damaging. Most important, the other person must commit to changing the way they treat the INFJ.

Are INFJs hard to leave a relationship with?

They take their connections to others very seriously, making it very hard for the INFJ to leave even a bad relationship behind. The INFJ does not “Door Slam” someone lightly, this is something that takes a lot of time before the emotion builds up much too strong for them to continue.

How do you deal with an INFJ who won’t move on?

The INFJ has made the decision to move on and to them it is already done. Simply avoid being shut out by an INFJ, by being a reasonable human being. They will take a lot from the people they love, but eventually it becomes too much. They will only cut someone out for continuous emotional abuse, or for abusing someone that they love.