What do you do if you tell someone you know a secret?

If it would hurt, upset or endanger your friend to tell their secret, then exercise a little discipline and stay quiet. If you genuinely think it’s harmless and you go about it very, very carefully, you might be allowed to offload it.

What do you do when a friend betrays your confidence?

Here are the steps you should take either way.

1. Accept that being betrayed by a friend is deeply hurtful.
2. If you can, have an honest conversation with your friend.
3. Figure out why you feel so betrayed.
4. Ask whether the relationship is worth saving.
5. Ask whether they are sorry.
6. Don’t rush into a decision.
7. Say goodbye.

How do you deal with a friend who told a secret?

Meet with the friend who told your secret. Tell her that you know what she did, and go over the list you have created, so you can fully express how her actions damaged you and your friendship. If you wish to pursue reconciliation, let your friend know she needs to rebuild trust, which will take a long time.

What do you do when your friend is broadcasting your secrets?

And if you find out that a friend is broadcasting your secrets, take control of where the friendship goes: Edit what you share. Edit the time you spend together. And edit your expectations.

Should you share your secrets with your friends?

“The act of sharing that secret with others, without permission, violates the loyalty and respect for privacy that is traditionally a cornerstone of a close or best friendship,” according to Jan Yager, author of “When Friendship Hurts.”

Should we encourage confidentiality in friendships?

Up to that point, we offer the sanctity of privacy. In your friendships, a similar commitment to a friend’s need for confidentiality should also be upheld to that very same point. Sometimes, nothing feels better than “telling all” to a friend.