What do you do when your ex is bad mouth?

The best way to respond to bad-mouthing is to behave in ways that make you feel good about yourself….Don’t expect them to ever change their behavior, and do develop strategies for deflecting their drama.

• Don’t defend yourself.
• Use disarming statements.
• Don’t match your ex’s intensity.

Is it OK to not respond to ex?

It is definitely OK not to respond to ex. In fact, in many circumstances, you might find that you shouldn’t text back. If you find yourself in a situation where the only thing you can gain from communication with an ex is short-term validation, it’s likely not worth it, especially if the wounds are still new and fresh.

What to do when your ex is bad mouthing you?

Name bad-mouthing as a problem but don’t respond with your own bad-mouthing, i.e., “your father’s a nightmare and is out for revenge.” Instead, acknowledge that your ex says bad things about you and focus on the impact on your kids: “What you’ve heard may have scared you, or made you angry.”

Do you feel guilty for breaking up with your ex?

If you’re feeling guilty that you caused your ex pain, remember that breaking up meant honoring your needs as well as your ex’s — which means it was probably the right thing to do.

Why do some people blame their exes for everything?

Although most divorced people occasionally say something less than kind about their former spouse, some turn ex-bashing into an Olympic event. These are usually high-conflict individuals (HCIs) who defend against the pain of divorce by blaming their ex for everything. HCIs have distorted ways of thinking, and cannot see their part in problems.

Why do my friends think I’m okay after a breakup?

“Your friends might assume you’re okay because you’d been talking about breaking up for a while,” says Trescott. “Get real with yourself and others about the expectations you have for your friendships post-breakup. If no one’s rushing to your side, it’s on you to get comfortable initiating yet another experience.