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What do you do when your friend develops feelings for you?
Here’s how to deal when a friend has an unrequited crush on you.
- Don’t lead them on. It’s nice when someone has a crush on you.
- Be kind, but clear. It’s necessary to let your pal know you don’t have feelings for them, but it’s just as important to be sensitive about how you do it.
- Don’t make it a big deal.
- Give them space.
How do you be friends with someone who has feelings for you?
Be upfront and honest.
- “Genuine friendships are rooted in honesty,” says dating coach Kevin Darné.
- Accept the reality of the situation.
- Maintaining a friendship with someone you love hurts—especially at first.
- Prioritize yourself.
Can You Be Friends with someone you have feelings for?
But it is possible to have a friendship with someone you have feelings for. “The trickiest part of maintaining a friendship with someone you’re in love with is that it absolutely requires you to accept this person exactly as they are,” Dr. Mark Borg Jr, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in relationships, tells Bustle.
Are You Ready to be friends with someone?
Those last two are pretty essential. You can’t really be friends with someone if you think about them every time you touch yourself. When you can answer these questions with an honest no, then you’re ready for friendship. Otherwise, keep your distance. This advice also applies if someone has a crush on you.
How will my friend react if I confess my feelings?
You have no way to know how your friend is going to react. After you confess your feelings, the nature of your friendship might change. The person you have feelings for may not want to continue your friendship, and that doesn’t mean they don’t care about you. It just means that they’re considering what’s best for them.
Is it possible to stay friends with someone who doesn’t reciprocate?
It’s not enough to say that you want to keep them around as a friend if they don’t reciprocate your feelings. You should be prepared to actually work at being friends, even though they know how you feel. That might be difficult, but if you really want to stay friends, you can make it work.