What happens when you work with the wrong therapist?

And because highly sensitive people like you and me process things deeply, working with the wrong therapist can leave us more emotionally wounded than when we first walked into their office. While some people can easily move on from a bad therapy experience, HSPs may ruminate and blame themselves over why things didn’t work out.

Why do we always blame the victim?

Specifically, psychologists believe that our tendency to blame the victim may originate, paradoxically, in a deep need to believe that the world is a good and just place. To understand how this is possible, it’s important to consider how we human beings make sense of the world around us.

What are the signs of a bad therapist?

The therapist might encourage you to blame others or become overly defensive about a criticism. These issues may not hurt your feelings, but they hinder progress in therapy. This guide will help you spot all the signs of a bad therapist. That way you can avoid bad therapists and find the quality therapy you deserve.

Are there therapists who are ineffective?

Just like any profession, there are competent therapists and therapists who are ineffective. This article isn’t intended to bash the entire counseling profession or discourage you from seeking help. In fact, many HSPs report that therapy is a life-changing and healing experience for them.

Do therapists feel pressure to keep clients in treatment?

Some clients feel pressured by their therapist to stay in treatment. Other clients cling to a therapist because they feel like they have nobody else to turn too. The bottom line: you’re not responsible for how your therapists feels. Most therapists know that they’re not going to be a great fit for every client that walks into their office.

What should it feel like to go to therapy?

It shouldn’t feel like you’re a drug junkie waiting for your next fix. Instead, you should begin to see measurable improvement in your life. You should begin to feel more empowered, more confident, and more able to handle distressing situations. A good therapist/counselor helps you find your strengths.

Do you have to pay your therapist if you don’t want to see?

The bottom line: you’re not responsible for how your therapists feels. Most therapists know that they’re not going to be a great fit for every client that walks into their office. You aren’t obligated to keep paying a professional that you don’t want to see anymore.

What should I do if therapy isn’t working for me?

If therapy isn’t working, the first person you should talk to is your therapist. She may opt to change her approach to treatment, pursue more “homework” options for you, or even refer you to another therapist. Be sure to ask the following questions: • How long should it take for me to see results?

What happens when therapy fails you?

If therapy has failed you, you still have plenty of options for feeling better. If therapy isn’t working, the first person you should talk to is your therapist. She may opt to change her approach to treatment, pursue more “homework” options for you, or even refer you to another therapist.