What should it feel like to go to therapy?

It shouldn’t feel like you’re a drug junkie waiting for your next fix. Instead, you should begin to see measurable improvement in your life. You should begin to feel more empowered, more confident, and more able to handle distressing situations. A good therapist/counselor helps you find your strengths.

Is it normal for my relationships to change during therapy?

It can be normal to have a shift in relationships over the course of therapy. Perhaps you’ve been hanging around people that have drained you or you discovered that all your relationships are generally one-way relationships. In these cases, it’s typical to have a friend or group shift. Old ones fade and new, healthier relationships enter your life.

Are you experiencing Red Flag situations with your therapist/counselor?

If you are experiencing these red-flag situations with your therapist/counselor, don’t be afraid to speak up and look elsewhere. Voicing your concern and seeking better therapeutic help is a sign of health and boundaries — not resistance or an indication of your brokenness.

Is it normal to miss part of a therapy session?

You deserve to talk to someone whom you feel comfortable around. There are times when missing part or all of a session is nothing more than a scheduling snafu, but if it happens often, it might reflect an attempt to avoid therapy, the therapist or the feelings that are coming up in therapy, Fleck said.

Are You wasting your therapist’s time?

The longer you wait, however, the more entrenched the problem becomes. Which is why instead of worrying about whether you’re wasting your therapist’s time, you’d be better off focusing on how you’d be wasting more of your own time if you were to leave and wait for something to shift—time you could be using right now to improve your marriage.

What happens if my therapist doesn’t know the essential highlights?

If your therapist doesn’t know the essential highlights, they may use interventions or exercises that may not be the best fit for your issue, since they don’t have the full story.