What sort of behaviors are seen in borderline personality disorder and how do they interfere with relationships?

When a person with BPD senses a shift in their partner’s feelings, whether real or imagined, they may immediately withdraw. They can become angry and hurt over something a person without BPD would not react to. They can even become obsessive. These emotional switchbacks can be difficult to handle.

How does BPD make you act?

With borderline personality disorder, you have an intense fear of abandonment or instability, and you may have difficulty tolerating being alone. Yet inappropriate anger, impulsiveness and frequent mood swings may push others away, even though you want to have loving and lasting relationships.

How should a borderline patient behave?

To help someone with BPD, first take care of yourself

1. Avoid the temptation to isolate.
2. You’re allowed (and encouraged) to have a life!
3. Join a support group for BPD family members.
4. Don’t neglect your physical health.
5. Learn to manage stress.
6. Listen actively and be sympathetic.
7. Focus on the emotions, not the words.

Should you use “you” or “I” when talking to someone with BPD?

By avoiding “you” statements, you may reduce the defensiveness or anger someone with BPD might react with, as the problem has been presented as your problem and not theirs. Even clearly using “I” statements may not work immediately as the person with Borderline Personality Disorder may still hear “you” statements.

How do you communicate with someone with borderline personality disorder?

Here are a few basic pointers for communicating with someone with borderline personality disorder in a healthy and productive way: Be patient. Be realistic. Try to separate facts from feelings. Validate feelings first.

Are people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) creative?

The reality is that people with Borderline Personality Disorder are still unique, creative individuals. They can be amazing with the right partner. But, you need to be aware of the three main BPD relationship stages (there’s probably more but these 3 are the most important).

What are the different stages of a BPD relationship?

Stages of a BPD Relationship and How They Evolve 1 These stages are the Honeymoon/Seducer Stage, the Vulnerable Clinger Stage and then… 2 You fall for the spell and feel like you’ve found “the one.” 3 Doing good deeds and being this “white knight” will never score you any points. 4 This is why BPD relationships evolve towards chaos.