What to do when your partner reads your messages?

Here are 13 things to keep in mind if you catch your partner snooping.

1. Remain Calm.
2. Understand That It’s About Insecurity.
3. Call Them Out.
4. Talk It Out — Don’t Accuse.
5. Address The Issue Without Blame.
6. Ask Yourself Questions.
7. Figure Out If They’re Trying To Control You.
8. Find Out The Cause Of The Snooping.

Why do people avoid talking about their emotions in text messages?

To avoid revealing vulnerable emotions. No one can hear trembling or anger in your voice in a text. To protect oneself from having to hear another person’s distress, whether it be crying, anger, or strain in their voice. To have some control over the conversation, including setting boundaries with difficult or verbose people.

Should you look through your partner’s private texts?

Do you ever wonder if you should—and is your partner OK with you looking at their texts? A 2012 study by Derby, Knox and Easterling found that about two-thirds of participants admitted to surreptitiously looking through a partner’s private messages, including social networking sites and texts on their phone.

Is texting the best way to negotiate a relationship?

As someone who is all thumbs with my thumbs, I’m always amazed that people have the digital dexterity to carry on a reasonably coherent text dialogue for longer than two minutes. But personal challenges aside, texting is not the way to negotiate a relationship.

Why do some people avoid talking on the phone?

To protect oneself from having to hear another person’s distress, whether it be crying, anger, or strain in their voice. To have some control over the conversation, including setting boundaries with difficult or verbose people. Sometimes this can devolve into manipulation, especially if one party refuses to talk on the phone. To expend less energy.