Why am I bitter towards my ex?

Even if you saw the split coming, bitterness after a breakup is normal, and it often happens as a result of heartbreak and pent-up frustration toward your ex. If you’re bitter because you feel like your ex didn’t try hard enough when you were together, it’s probably a sign that the relationship was unbalanced.

Why do I still think about my toxic ex years later?

Sometimes, people are still thinking about their Ex for months, or even years after the relationship ended because of lingering insecurities or comparisons they’re making — even subconsciously. This is often true when your Ex has moved on before you have.

Why is my ex so angry and bitter?

Why your ex might still be bitter According to breakup coach Natalia Juarez, it’s often due to victim mentality. In her interview, she explained that these people feel that they were wronged. If your ex cheated on your or betrayed you, you can’t help but feel angry towards the person.

What to do when your ex is bad mouthing you?

Name bad-mouthing as a problem but don’t respond with your own bad-mouthing, i.e., “your father’s a nightmare and is out for revenge.” Instead, acknowledge that your ex says bad things about you and focus on the impact on your kids: “What you’ve heard may have scared you, or made you angry.”

Why do some people blame their exes for everything?

Although most divorced people occasionally say something less than kind about their former spouse, some turn ex-bashing into an Olympic event. These are usually high-conflict individuals (HCIs) who defend against the pain of divorce by blaming their ex for everything. HCIs have distorted ways of thinking, and cannot see their part in problems.

What should I do if my ex is being malicious?

Say your piece once if needed and then let the chips fall where they may. I do suggest however that if your ex is being particularly malicious, that you note any and all attempts to make contact with you (don’t tell them obviously) because it’s evidence of their lies and manipulations.

What are the biggest misconceptions about ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends?

One of the biggest misconceptions people have is that if their ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend reached out, it must be because they truly love and miss them. They desperately want to believe in the illusion that a friendship with their ex-partner or some other dubious arrangement will fulfill their needs long-term.