Why do I hurt the ones I care about?

When we hurt someone for no reason, it’s because we fear rejection or disconnection from that person. We hope that, by lashing out, they’ll show us more love, attention or understanding. As a result, we’ll feel ‘safer’ in the relationship. So, we behave badly because we want to feel ‘safe’.

Why helping others can hurt you?

When caregivers engage in empathy, they recognize and often mirror the distressed client’s experience. Over time, this can produce a numbing effect and lead to compassion stress. If we ignore the small stresses as they come, then our capacity to help others will deteriorate as distress builds.

Why am I always getting hurt emotionally?

Sometimes this emotional distress is the result of the actions of others. Other times, it might be the result of regret, grief, or loss. In other cases, it might be the result of an underlying mental health condition such as depression or anxiety.

Why does being kind hurt?

Being too kind can lead to bottling up emotions and creating an even more poisonous situation for you and your loved ones because you don’t want to hurt, you’re too kind to inflict pain. Being too kind grants manipulators the opportunity to use you to reach their selfish goals.

Is being too helpful a weakness?

Kindness can become a weakness in one’s life. A person might learn it is not always right to put too much trust into someone. Wearing your heart on your sleeve can cause an individual of trusting too much , too helpful, and too comfortable with sharing emotions with others.

When does kindness become toxic?

Kindness can become toxic when making others comfortable becomes a priority and boundaries get faded. This mindset results in trying to keep your relationships conflict-free and to achieve that overly-kind people will let their boundaries get stepped over to keep it peaceful.