Why do my parents care so much about what other people think?
It’s normal to care about what others think of you and/or your family, especially those whose opinion you value. It’s very normal for parents to care more than their kids do about the family’s reputation, because they’ve lived long enough to see the downside of living heedlessly.
Can a mother care too much?
However, it’s possible to have too much of a good thing. When a parent hovers, trying to anticipate their child’s every need, the child may not develop adequate confidence in their own judgment and ability. Care needs to be provided in a balanced and measured way to promote a child’s sense of agency.
How do you deal with disapproval parents?
An Approach to Try
- Behavior: Describe the behavior you dislike. For example, “Mom, I don’t like it when you give me unsolicited advice about my life choices.”
- Affect: Share with your parent how this behavior affects you.
- Request: Ask for the behavior you’d prefer.
- Benefits: Describe the benefits of making a change.
Why don’t I Want my mom to know I’m upset?
“I don’t want my mom to know I’m upset.” If you have a healthy relationship with your mother, you probably often turn to her when you’ve had a bad day or are going through something painful. If you’re dealing with Rejected Child Syndrome, you likely hide unpleasant emotions from your mother or even from the world in general.
What if my own mother doesn’t love me?
“If my own mother doesn’t love me, no one will.” If one person in the world is supposed to love you, it’s your mother. She gave you life, and is supposed to be your ultimate source of unconditional acceptance. When you don’t receive that love and acceptance from her, it’s not uncommon to believe you’re never going to find it.
Why can’t I trust my mother?
If you were rejected as a child, you’ve never been able to trust your mother. From early on, she’s shown you that she isn’t a safe or reliable figure in your life, and that distrust is ingrained by adulthood. Whether it’s a personal secret or an important task, you don’t trust your mom with it.
Why do I feel rejected by my mother?
Many rejected children become perfectionists, feeling like minor mistake are the cause for this parental rejection. You may hide your flaws or any areas of your life that are less-than-perfect, constantly fearing criticism and judgment from your own mother. “I don’t want my mom to know I’m upset.”