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Why do people sometimes feel angry when their views are challenged?
The parts of the brain that were triggered control deep, emotional thoughts about personal identity. “When people activate these emotional structures of the brain more, when they’re being challenged, they’re less likely to change their minds,” the professor explained.
How do you live with someone you disagree with?
- Here’s how to disagree with grace.
- Decide if you want to go there.
- Ask if you can ask about it.
- Keep it neutral.
- Start off the conversation with understanding.
- Look for where you agree.
- Talk less. Give the other person space to respond.
- Avoid using the word ‘but’
How do you respond without agreeing?
A great way to start practicing validation is by using some of these verbal techniques:
- Reflection. Show you’re listening by repeating what you heard the other person say.
- Seek clarification. Ask questions to make sure what you’re hearing is what the other person intended.
- Normalize.
Can you disagree with empathy?
Effective communication during times of disagreement begins with empathy. Empathy, unlike sympathy, asks that we put ourselves in the other person’s shoes. Beyond feeling compassion or pity towards another person, empathy is an active effort to understand the experience and perspective of others.
Why do some people get angry at people who disagree with them?
It’s because they don’t like to hear other peoples points of view so they become defensive. Everybody has an opinion and is entitled to it so long as they don’t force it on someone. People who get angry about people disagreeing with them tend to try to force their opinions on people.
Why do people get defensive when someone is using an aggressive tone?
From my understanding, people get defensive for many genuine and psychological reasons. First and foremost, if someone is using an aggressive tone and it feels like an attack, defensive behavior is activated as our basic survival instinct entails: defend yourself from predators.
Why do people feel threatened by their own beliefs and ideas?
Because they associate their sense of identity with their beliefs and ideas. Contradict the beliefs and ideas, and it is seen as an attack on their identity. This is pretty absurd really. People change a lot over time, and consistently underestimate how much they change. In the past this happened less since people’s opinions were more homogeneous]
Why do people attack people who don’t know about their subject?
To a great extent it is understandable because if you don’t know about a subject they are an expert on (experience or knowledge wise) then you may attack without realizing that you don’t have a basis to attack. It’s like if you’re in a boxing ring, you both know the rules and boxing very well.