Why does a narcissist smear you?

Why does a narcissist smear you?

But for the victim, it can be a shocking and damaging experience. In an unwanted pending divorce situation, narcissists will frequently smear their spouse to others while begging for reconciliation. At work, a narcissist might slander a person they believe to be a competitor for a promotion to ensure their success.

How do you survive a narcissistic smear campaign?

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  1. Don’t engage.
  2. Focus on what you can deal with, and not what you can’t.
  3. Be prepared for the narcissist to claim the victim’s role.
  4. Look forward, not back.
  5. Seek support, because there’s no gold star for going it alone.

How to counter the narcissistic smear campaign?

Countering the Smear Campaign is very difficult. Some tips – easy to write – much more difficult to accept, let alone put into action: Rise above it – don’t dispute it, narcs have already anticipated this and have the antidote. By rising above it, you are disengaging with the narc and depriving them of narcissistic supply. You are oozing decorum.

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Why do you engage in the narcissist’s game?

In doing so, you are actively contributing to your very own smear campaign by energising stories further! Additionally, your engagement in the narcissist’s game signals you are still available for their supply. The narc knows as long as they can elicit reactions, they retain power and control over you.

How should you react to a narcissistic smear?

Reacting in any way at all to the smear is precisely what the narcissist is hoping for. You must remember that your reactions, whether positive or negative, are what they feast on. And it is irrelevant whether you react directly to the narc or not.

What happens when you don’t respond to a narcissist?

In doing nothing, in not reacting, you have surfaced the truth. Additionally, by not responding, the narcissist recognises that their spell is broken, they have lost all power & control over you. You have let go and the cycle of abuse is not a place you will revisit.

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