Why is my dad so difficult to deal with?

That’s probably PTSD. Your dad isn’t just difficult, he’s verbally and emotionally abusive. It really screws you up to grow up in a household like that. It’s likely your dad grew up in a similar situation to the one he has created in his current household.

What to do when your father won’t change?

In relationships in which one person is unable or unwilling to change his or her behavior, the responsibility falls to the other person to decide how to proceed. The challenge is to find ways to take care of yourself despite your father’s behavior. That could mean putting some distance between you and him (e.g. less frequent visits).

How can I deal with my father’s anger issues?

The challenge is to find ways to take care of yourself despite your father’s behavior. That could mean putting some distance between you and him (e.g. less frequent visits). Or, that could mean visiting with him only when others are present, if that would reduce the likelihood that he would become angry or negative.

What is it like to have an Angry Dad?

I have an angry dad. He’s calmed down a lot since I was a teenager, but for most of my childhood, it sounds like he was just like yours: he’s never violent, but he yells and rages, and if he’s in the wrong mood just about anything can set him off. How I dealt with it was, one day, I started shouting back.

How can I have a better relationship with my father?

If he plays golf, you should play with him. If he fishes, you should fish with him. If he goes to NASCAR races, you should volunteer to cook out with him, in Turn #1. If he paints, you might take it up, too. If you want a better relationship with your father, spend the effort to get in the best place for that to happen.

What will happen if a parent does nothing?

So if a parent does nothing, their children will become quite schooled in the dark arts of self-indulgence. Therefore, parents must constrain their children to right behavior. In time their moral understanding will develop and they will begin to choose good, even when it is contrary to their carnal desires.